singing love songs to each other

I read an interesting article this morning on how it's not the chemicals in drugs which make people addicted, but the sense of connection. Immediately that made sense to me. People turn to drugs, gambling, food, and other addictions when they are disconnected from what they really need, which in almost all cases is peace-of-heart and love.

What amazed me about the article was not this information but the spirit which is being applied in some places to cure addiction. Simply, love. For example, Portugal has halved its drug problem by helping drug addicts to reconnect with themselves and other people : securing them safe housing, getting them jobs, bringing them into the caring embrace of society.

We live in an age of isolation. As one writer says, "Social isolation is as potent a cause of early death as smoking 15 cigarettes a day; loneliness, research suggests, is twice as deadly as obesity. Dementia, high blood pressure, alcoholism and accidents – all these, like depression, paranoia, anxiety and suicide, become more prevalent when connections are cut. We cannot cope alone."

And yet, the cult of the individual continues. I believe it is, like engagement rings, a marketing ploy. If we are lonely, feeling unfulfilled, or worried that something about our bodies will keep us from securing a relationship, we're going to buy stuff that we're assured will meet our needs. And we'll leave our families for long hours in order to do what's "really important", what gives our life "purpose" - work in a job. This is why I hate capitalism. It has turned us from people into consumers, drones, competitors. And many of us are not coping.

Imagine if people everywhere - rich and poor, man and woman, powerful and powerless - talked to each other, and listened with love to what our different needs were. Imagine if we connected. Look at how Pope Francis has been embraced so heartily by the world, even those who aren't Catholic. He simply connects with people. He touches them, talks to them on the phone, uses ordinary language that sometimes gets him in trouble. It's the same with the Dalai Lama, as it was with Princess Diana. We grab such cheerful, simple humanity and hold it close. We are starving for an ordinary and utterly priceless connection with other people.

But you know, all of us reading here today - we have an amazing power. We are on the internet. We can type love and kindness and caring for each other. We can sing love songs across the world.

One small but profound way you can help homeless women.

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  1. You're right. We do have an amazing power, to care for each other.

  2. You write so eloquently, so lovely.

    What an amazing coincidence. For today, of all days, that you talk about empowerment and women and menstruation. And just the other day about publicness on blogs. And myself, in that same questioning boat. And women and menstruation. Oh.

  3. What a wonderful world it would be with more love and less hate.

  4. the cult of the individual continues ...

    Yes, I have been writing about this very same thing this morning - no, there are no coincidences - and while it is wonderful that we have access to the internet and can sing love across the world, I have been exploring the idea that social media itself heightens this disconnection within society ...

    so, the cult of the individual continues …

  5. Thank you for singing your love song across the world! Your Portugal story makes me think of something I read, about how instead of isolating or banishing someone from the community, a tribe of indigenous people would hold tight to that person who had acted badly, trying to heal the hurt on that person's spirit by giving them love and compassion until reintegrating them into the community. The cult of the individual and of capitalism are so idealized and almost festishized here in America, but how harmful they can be.